Originally published 9.15.09
by Jesse Muhammad
The search for the identity of my biological father has struck a nerve unlike I ever expected.
I must admit, the last week was kind of rough mentally because I was calling Earl Rideaux’s home here in Houston and nobody was answering. I wanted to have dinner with them over the weekend and talk to Earl in person about taking the DNA test. But no responses.
So to remedy my impatience, I started researching more on how to obtain the death certificate of Joe McCray. After speaking with the Department of Vital Statistics in Austin, my mother and I planned to drive to that city to obtain it for only $20. Our trip was to take place on Friday, September 11.
Weather conditions did not permit us to make the trip.
Then it happened. On Sunday, September 13, I called Earl’s home after making a prayer. Someone answered the phone. I ask for him. They gave him the phone. I told him who it was and he had a delayed response when I said who it was before finally saying “Ohh, hey son!” and “How are you doing?”.
I told him that I had wanted to meet with him in person but did not want more time to elapse. I shared with him for the first time my mother’s doubts about him being my father. He said “Really?“. He then went on to say that “I am sure you are because I saw the pictures you took with your sisters. You look so much like us.”
I said “I saw the resemblance as well” but that also I wanted to take a DNA test be 1000 percent sure so we can move on as family if it turns out he is my father.
His response, “Son, I will happily do that. Whatever will put you at peace. I am ready. Let’s do it. Come pick me up anytime. We can take the test and then go catch up.”
I told him I really appreciate him stepping up on this.
We had small talk for about five more minutes….conversation ended.
DNA testing will take place September 17 or 18, God Willing.
One step closer….
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