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by Fudia Muhammad
The moment we find out that we are pregnant, we should focus all of our energy on the womb. Our physical womb and our mental womb are connected; so, our feelings for our child are helping to fashion his brain and overall being. In her book, Queen of the Planet Earth: The Rebirth and Rise of the Original Woman, Minister Ava Muhammad writes the following: “It is a proven fact that by the sixth month of pregnancy and often earlier, the unborn child is living an active emotional life. He can see, hear, taste, experience and even learn. Most importantly, he has feelings. And what he feels and perceives begins to shape his attitudes and expectations for himself for life.”
Our sincere feelings for our child can easily be expressed to him with words. Therefore, we should start talking to our baby as soon as we know life is there. Though our child is not able to look at us and see our smiling face as we are speaking, he can hear every word we are saying as well as absorb the joy and love being expressed. Sound travels through water. Our baby is immersed and protected by water while in utero; so, talking to our baby every day is extremely advantageous.
As we talk to our baby, we should tell him about Allah (God) and his potential to be like Him. We should be specific when we share what we desire him to become. Take a look at the condition of the world – greatness is required to make a significant impact. This is the direction we should guide our child. Talk to him about everything positive that comes to mind – behavior, discipline, having a good attitude, working hard and most importantly, obedience to the divine laws of Allah (God).
I can almost see many of your faces as you read these words. If this is a new concept to you, it may sound ridiculous to speak to a growing fetus as if he were a fully developed human, but just stay with me. If our desires for our child are concretized through verbal expressionsand energy, they will make an indelible impression on the forming brain, increasing our baby’s intellectual acuityand spiritual inclination toward God and righteousness.
Of course, talking alone is not enough. We must connect our sincere desires for our child to the only Being who can turn all desires into reality. Allah (God) desires for us to give birth to gods. He did not come to make us followers or simply to make us really smart people. He came to make us gods,exercising both force and power. It is not pleasing to Him to see us continue to produce liars, freaks, murderers, and devils. Therefore, when we turn to Him and pray for a righteous child, it is a prayer He answers with delight. During pregnancy, our prayers MUST increase – there is just no way around it. Pray, pray, pray, pray, pray and then pray some more. Our prayers impress themselves on the womb more than anything.
Pregnancy is a time in our life when we can bear witness without any shred of doubt that Allah (God) is actively with us. How do we know this? As women, we only possess the laboratory, but we do not call the baby’s eyes, ears, limbs, cells, organs, and blood into existence. The umbilical cord and placenta seem to come from nowhere. Everything our baby needs to survive outside of the womb is being formed without our direction or consent. Only Allah (God) could call into existence such a perfect creation, evolving seamlessly from an amphibian state to a human. We should be grateful. Perhaps if it were up to us, our children would be born with three heads and eight legs; looking like something better suited to live in the depth of the sea – smile.
The Holy Qur’an reads, “And certainly We create man of an extract of clay, Then We make him a small life-germ in a firm resting-place, Then We make the life-germ a clot, then We make the clot a lump of flesh, then We make (in) the lump of flesh bones, then We clothe the bones with flesh, then We cause it to grow into another creation. So, blessed be Allah, the Best of creators!” God is indeed the Greatest!
Allah (God) gave the woman the ability to not only assist Him in calling a child into existence who is a god internally; but externally as well. Do not get this confused with vanity. Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. But desiring a child physically appealing and beautiful to most beholders, is not wrong. The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan said that being happy during pregnancy and thinking righteous thoughts can affect our baby’s physical appearance. Have you ever seen someone and said to yourself, ‘She would be so pretty if she just wasn’t so angry and nasty all of the time?’ A foul attitude combined with bad food and drink will rob us of our natural beauty appearance and can mar our baby. There are many who have made themselves ill and have even died early due to living troubled, angry, and bitter lives. Anger is physically toxic to the mind and body – it negatively impacts the developing baby.
Allah (God) must be uppermost in our mind and heart; above our husband, other family members and even ourselves. Recite His beautiful attributes over and over again: Bismillah ir Rahman ir Rahim (In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful). Allah (God) is The Peace, The Majestic, The Forgiver, The All-Knowing, The Loving, The Truth, and so much more. The more we reflect on these attributes, the more our child will be like his Creator. He will not be ‘The’ Beneficent, but he will be beneficent. He will not be ‘The’ Forgiver, but he will have a forgiving spirit. The more we pray and think on something, Allah (God) begins to arrange the forces in the atmosphere to give us exactly what we want – another divine law. It is important to be mindful that anything we ask Allah (God) regarding our child; we must also ask that it be a blessing. Have you ever heard of the expression, ‘Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it?’ Sometimes we pray for something and when we receive it, instead of it being a blessing, it becomes a burden – or worse, a curse.
Remember that one of the most powerful prayers to say while pregnant is found in the Holy Qur’an, embedded in the words spoken by the mother of Maryam (Mary). It is found in Chapter 3, Verse 34; it reads, “When a woman of Amran said: My Lord, I vow to Thee what is in my womb, to be devoted (to Thy service), so accept (it) from me; surely Thou, only Thou, art the Hearing, the Knowing.” These words are so profoundly beautiful if carefully understood. To know that you are bringing a child into this world and to then immediately have the presence of mind to first and foremost declare a righteous intention for that child is glorious.
In an article titled, The Most Honored Woman in History; Mary, the Mother of Jesus, the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan wrote, “When the female finds that she is expecting, immediately, as it was with the mother of Mary, a vow should be made in the form of a prayer…It is most important that the vow is made as soon as the female discovers that she is with child. This vow sets the stage for the forming of this new life, for, it sets up the precondition or orientation of the mind of the expectant mother. All during her pregnancy, her mind is staid on Allah (God), since it is Allah (God) working with the expectant mother, forming that which is in the womb. This vow connects what is in the womb to the Originator of Life. This vow helps the expectant mother to know that she must observe clean habits in her eating, drinking and daily life because now she is forming something that she desires to be accepted by Allah (God) for His Service.”
The more we pray, the more our supplications are forming a child who loves Allah (God) more than anything. We are forming a child that will want to serve Allah (God) and will find tremendous joy in being obedient to Him. Though there is much within our realm of influence and control, only Allah (God) can make a righteous child. So, He cannot be absent from the equation. We must beg Him to intervene so that we may be blessed to experience the privilege of giving birth to gods.
(Sister Fudia Muhammad is a member of Muhammad Mosque No. 64 in Austin, Texas. She is married to Student Minister Robert L. Muhammad and they have been blessed with four children. Sister Fudia holds a Master’s degree in Education – she is a writer, an educator and an advocate for God-centered child-rearing.)