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by Fudia Muhammad
Everything that Allah (God) has created is perfectly obedient to His laws except for man and woman. The sun, the moon, the trees, the birds and the planets are all submissive to their nature – they have no other choice. Allah (God) only gave the gift of reason and the freedom of choice to His greatest creation, the human being. Collectively, we have abused our gifts and put the human family in a miserable condition by choosing to follow everyone and everything else except for God. We must use our gift of reason and choice wisely and live our lives in a way that would be pleasing to Him. This first step will restore us back to our rightful status, ‘The Glory of God’!
Disobedience to natural divine laws has its consequences. And it just doesn’t get any more natural than breastfeeding. Brothers, did you know that even in breastfeeding you have a critical role to play? In this world, a woman who desires to breastfeed needs a lot of support and encouragement, particularly in the beginning. The best source of this support is her husband. The last thing she needs is a husband that says, “Well Babe, if you don’t want to breastfeed that’s your choice; do you.” That sounds really nice, but it is all she needed to hear to give up instantly. Our duty is to encourage one another to follow Allah’s (God’s) guidance and do what is best for our children. Do not promote disobedience. Encourage her and get her the help that she may need. Do not get angry with her or try to force her to breastfeed; a gentle word and reminders will be more effective.
Though it is the mother’s responsibility to provide milk for the baby; it is not her baby alone. A woman who desires to give birth to a god needs a strong man to pick her up when she gets weak. Her obligations should be centered on Allah (God) and providing the best nourishment for her baby. A spiritually weak man who does not include himself in this journey is of no use to her when challenges come. Be clear on the specifics of her difficulty and if you cannot help her, seek the assistance of others. If she still does not breastfeed; only then should you have a measure of calm knowing that you did all that you could do.
During one of her lectures, Student Minister Ava Muhammad discussed an article she read about a woman in an airport who was nursing her baby as she awaited the arrival of her husband. While this woman was nursing, she received news that the plane her husband was on crashed. The extraordinary grief, anxiety, and trauma immediately consumed this woman’s mind and produced a toxic, poisonous reaction that instantly affected her blood, changing the chemistry of her breastmilk dramatically. The milk was so toxic that it killed her nursing baby. This is the power of thought. The woman can transfer peace, love, and life; or anxiety, hatred, and death to her baby.
That poor mother’s situation was the severest of the consequences one can experience from the transfer of negative thoughts. However, the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan gives men a warning when it comes to their nursing wives. He stated that a man must be careful how he handles his wife during her nursing years. If an argument arises, the chemistry of the woman’s mind changes and this affects the blood and then the milk. When she goes to feed her baby, the baby is feeding on this milk and feels the rejection of his father. Everything a woman feels for her husband, good and bad, is received by the child. A husband should make sure that his wife is happy, relaxed and in good spirits when she goes to nurse her baby. Remember, she is not just nourishing the body, she is developing the mind and spirit of that precious new life.
(Sister Fudia Muhammad is a member of Muhammad Mosque No. 64 in Austin, Texas. She is married to Student Minister Robert L. Muhammad and they have been blessed with four children. Sister Fudia holds a Master’s degree in Education – she is a writer, an educator and an advocate for God-centered child-rearing. https://www.givebirthtoagod.com/)